Friendship or Love, or maybe Both?

Greetings to all of you. I had this topic in my invaluable ticking brain long ago, But I did not have the time to put it into words and sentence. It is a quite huge topic for me to discuss this in my own words and ideas. However, I will try my best to evaluate this title and put it into words, that all of you can understand. Hehe.

Firstly, I would like to start with the meaning of the word FRIENDSHIP. Perhaps, everyone has their own definition of friendship, but, I still want to state my definition of the word. I define the word friendship as : having a relationship with another person, to an extend, that you will try your best to comfort and help the person, in your own way, and to feel care about the person, but yet, not to have bias on the person, and not doing something not ordinary and or treat the person differently from your other friends. All of your friend will have almost 100% equivalent treats and care.

Next, I’ll be describing the word LOVE. Ok, this is a complicated word, as it can bring a variety of definitions and meaning. Love, I would like to describe one of its definition as : the feeling of butterfly in you stomach, a looping pop-up reminder about the person, and almost as the same as FRIENDSHIP, but with biased and high level of treatment compared to the others, and usually the person is the opposite gender (while, some weird cases, it happened to the same gender, eukh. sorry, i am not supporting this one). Love can makes you do the things you won’t do, and even breaking up some prevention firewall that you already built, and not to forget, causing some weird jiggles within your ordinary normal life.

You may have familiar with the term ‘first sight love’. I would say that, this is one of the common situation that happened nowadays, and yet, not all of them have a happy ending. Referring back to the title, I want to stress here that, in our life, or maybe only some of us, they are going through this dilemma, where they’re mistaken FRIENDSHIP, LOVE, or maybe confused enough and accidently mixed them up.

One of the case is that, you and the other person is very close, to an extend, you looks like a couple. You share every story, experience or news. Both of you can make jokes and sometimes, it might even related to the private issue of each other, but, both of you did not feel embarrassed or offended. This is probably only the friendship process. So, don’t take it to fast. You might feel some care about the person, but, the care doesn’t mean that the other person is a person who you really love. It just might be some affect of unstable hormones and temperatures (err, not related). So, take a seat, look back at yourself, and make some evaluation (this one, using your own examination procedures, don’t ask from me). However, if you can maintain this relationship, both of you can be a very close friends, best-friend perhaps.

Love, is actually, an abstract behaviour, which no scientist can make a perfect research about it. It is unpredictable, with no rhythmic action, and sometimes, attack the soul of the person, silently, slowly, or sometimes abruptly, and it may come from any angle of your life. Being able to love a person, doesn’t mean that if you can spend some big money on the relationship, then you called it LOVE. Some even says that, LOVE is what you have done on the relationship. No, that is a claiming act, and you’re comparing something untouchable, beyond eyes seeing, without weight, nor height or width, with something real, with mass or and limited with time. Love can have a sexual and individual biased. Hmm. Neh, scrap all of that. It just an abstract feeling in human soul. This is LOVE.

You might ended with a thought and dilemma of having to choose which one: Friendship or Love. Some even try to have Both. Here, I can’t say any of it is wrong or right. Life just not in a syllabus like Math or Science does. You decide for which is right or wrong, and it can only be applied to yourself. Not to the others. Ok?

Anyway, thanks for reading my scrappy essay and thoughts (maybe just a bunch of junks) to the end of the line. Thank you very much.

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p.s: I’m having the dilemma, got any point? You may shot me to half dead.

p.s: Hmm, I don’t think so, that I wrote what originally I wanted to write. I forgot to make notes. Durh.

note (1*) – Original image from Farhah at Deviantart.