Actually, this post was scheduled for 23rd Nov, 2008, 10.30 p.m. But, I changed my mind.

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I was always an observer, since I was small, even till today, I observe everything that I could, and most of it is the behavior of human beings, especially, young ones and children. Both of my parents are Physics Graduate, but they have the nature skills within them: Handling Human Being. Both of them hold a Master in Psychology. No wonder they still able to manage my family, which consist of 9 siblings, with everyone has a different type of behavior and personality. I salute both of my parents. Being the forth children in the family, give me a view of Senior and Junior, I mean.. I have both parties, elder brothers, elder sister, younger sister and younger brothers. A big family I have right? Nowadays, even though I never thought of holding a scroll of Psychology like my parents do, but I do have a little interest in reading people attitudes, why they did this, and why they respond like that.

Back to the main topic, ‘The Thing 101 – The Syllabus’. You probably asking me what is the meaning of ‘The Thing’, right? Ok, here, I define ‘The Thing’ as a something that has to do with our feelings, and it plays around, up and down, roll over and such a way that we won’t able to describe what it is to the others. In this writing, I would like to refer this as the ‘Feeling Toward Someone’. Hahaha. Next, this time, I would like to discuss about ‘The Syllabus’ only. Not about why, when, or what is forbidden and what is not. This syllabus is 100% original from me, not from reading others’ blog or books. It is based on experience of facing this situation and observation on behalf of others behavior, reflects and responds (mostly, my friends). Before I go further on with my issue, here I list down the simple Syllabus:

*Mere exposure is the spark for all these to happen. This is the most important catalyst.

Level [ 01 ~ 10 ]

01 : get close / run away from things or person
02 : get to know her/him
03 : having a close discussion with her/him
04 : being nice to her/him.. usually, special compared to others
05 : make her/him feels comfortable on you.
06 : then she/he start to feel liking her/him
07 : she/he will start to always be there for her/him
08 : she/he want to have their time with her/him
09 : confession stage or moment
10 : wait for the reply, then moves on to the basic ‘Love Life Graphs’

The Catalyst

Mere Exposure, defined as is a psychological phenomenon by which people tend to develop a preference for things merely because they are familiar with them (Wiki). I learned about this type of behavior in one of my units in Foundation studies, called ‘Critical Reading and Thinking Skills’. Mere exposure effect is very powerful and it moves out of out realization, doing unpredicted things. One of the example that I still remember is the situation where you don’t like a music/song, but, as you were repeatedly hearing the music/song, you will tend to be bias upon it, and starting to like it. You will never say ‘No’ anymore to that particular song/music. Same goes to human, where the situation is, you never like a this one person, or never ever acknowledge him/her, but, when you have been repeatedly expose to her, such as lap partnering, classmate, discussion board and such. You will start to notice them. Even a single step or scratch they made, you will notice. Now, move on to the Level 01.

Level 01

This is the first step of everything after the Catalyst. It is either the person run away from the exposure that the person had involved with, or the person might just stay put where ever the person was, and get along with the syndrome. The person who stays will put some bravery in themselves, that they will face this situation.

Level 02

The person will start to get to know the other party. Usually, not that abrupt and comfy. It is not the same thing as ‘Hi, I’m Abc, and you are..?’.. Nope. Here, it means that knowing the other party, deeper that the person already knows. Even deeper that than the ocean. Hahaha.

Level 03

Having a close discussion here, refers to level of depth of the discussion. I can be a personal issue, or something that cannot be released to the public. A private conversation can also be one of the symptom at this level.

Level 04

The person will start being nice to the other party. How nice is nice? That depends on the parties involved. But, usually, the marking will be made by outside parties, as they can distinguish the differentness of the Being Nice itself. And, this can be refers to acting special or doing special things to the other party.

Level 05

Make the other party feel comfortable when ever the person spend their time together. We can deduce that, this behavior is one of the important factor that the other party will count in their evaluation. Every party has their own marking scheme, so, I’m not going to list any scheme on this level. It is in the person’s hand to choose what is the right move or behavior.

Level 06

Next, the person will realize that, he/she has something going on in his/her heart : a butterfly in the stomach. Now, this is the level where the person will acknowledge that he/she already starts to like the other party. I’m not saying that the person loves the other party, as it is just a strike in their heart, and that is not Love. It can be just nothing at all. Ok, here is the most critical level as the person have to decide, whether to go on, or take stop, and change to a different route, as later on, things were getting more complicated.

Level 07

The party will start to spare their times with the other party. No matter what, the person surely will try to squeeze in some time for the other party. No offense, but this also might be affecting outside parties, as the schedule has been altered to fit in NEW slots. Beware my friend, this might turn out to ruin your relationship with others, especially, your close friends. They also need you, no matter what, no matter when, because you also need them. So, be prepared and manage properly.

Level 08

At this level, things are getting more complicated and serious. The person will have the intention of spending time with the other party, and if the person can’t make it, he/she will feel disappointed and down. Moreover, the person will start to feel some jealousy, which is not a good sign. It no more an invitation from the other party, it has turned out to be “are you free?”, “do you want to join me?” and such. It is more to creating the atmosphere themselves. I won’t say that it is good or bad. Its up to you.

Level 09

Ok, now is the most awaited moment of all, the confession note. At this level, the person will take a step to confess. Nothing can stop the person from confessing to the other party. No one can stop the person now. Not even the person himself/herself. The person will make a confession that the THING has already at a level where even the person-self can’t describe why.

Level 10

The end of the THING, and the start of new SOMETHING. This level will determine which route will be taken next. Either back to level 01, or continue with new SOMETHING. The decision is based on the other party. So, it a very fragile situation, which may lead to negative or positive responds. Beware both parties. This can affect a lot of people. And probably, your own best friend(s). Take note please.

Done. Thats all for the Syllabus. Insyallah, if I’m permitted to write more about SOMETHING, I will. Its all depend on time and jobs. Basically, everything that I wrote here is based on my research, which can be altered and commented. I will not say that it is a definite answer or a definite rule that has to apply to each of us. But, it just an idea by inferring possible value and variables that lie around me, around my life. I want to say that, these rules usually occur in my subjects and they do follow these rules. Thus, my first stage conclusion, that it is something that happened and you cannot deny it.

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Happy holiday everyone! My flight in on 23rd November, 21:40H, Miri to KL. See you in Shah Alam!

Congratulation to my Eldest Brother, Munzir. He is engaged today.  

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